Women whose marital standing is unknown are missing these information; thus, if they were on the pension, it’s probably that they died, remarried, or stopped collecting their pensions some time earlier than 1880. A letter of instruction to a particular examiner within the case of Catherine Matthews describes allegations of remarriage by the postmaster of Malone, New York. Another example of fraud is the case of Maria van Buren, whose remarriage to Frank Stoffer is reported to the pension board by a detailed acquaintance. An excerpt from the examiner’s report reads, “Stoffer had in his possession several letters, written in the same chirography, with the one hereto connected, none having a signature, all about equally soiled, but differing vastly in tone and purpose. The first a threatening message, demanding that she return to him by 7 o’clock and no less than bid him farewell ‘like a lady,’ or he would have her within the penitentiary instantly.
The benefit and cost vary relying on the age at which the widow is contemplating remarriage. Conditional on assembly a possible partner, the cost of ready decreases and the profit increases as she approaches age 60. She will remarry if the price of waiting exceeds the profit. The bigger change in the system occurred in December of 1977, allowing widows to remarry after age 60 and to nonetheless declare a full widow benefit.
Not all the reminiscences are good and I discuss these too. The man I am with as my single life partner now 6 years in, was aquainted with my late husband but we didn’t know of one another till four years after his dying. I continue to love my late wife and in addition to my present spouse. We had been very clear from the beginning of our relationship that we weren’t replacing the previous spouse.
He kinda dated a bit or “fooled around with multiple women” a 12 months or so after her passing. Took one on a cruise in early 2018 and she began to allegedly get emotions she didn’t want didn’t want to share him with anybody else etc…He mentioned he was not looking for a girlfriend and likely never would. In the summer of he hit on me and I was flattered, it was sudden and I didn’t see it coming-we fooled round for some time however agreed to just be friends- he didn’t need a girlfriend and I understood it lasted for a really very lengthy time regardless. Fastforward to we started spending increasingly time together, I never ever anticipated and even remotely considered ever getting into a “romantic” relationship.
I don’t wish to go away him but then once more I don’t want to live this second hand life… I’m so confused and any recommendation is past welcomed. In 2011, I met this wonderful couple and have become extraordinarily good associates with BOTH of them. Then in 2017, his wife of 18 years and collectively over 20 handed away, He helped her raise her three after they first met, they transformed the house she bought and he moved into. It was all he knew other than having his own two kids from a earlier marriage then resulted in divorce prior to them. I was there awhile after she handed whenever he wanted someone to talk to and he has all the time been there for me. We became finest friends and I was all the time capable of talk to him about every thing.